The sounds of children playing used to echo through my neighborhood. Their imaginary games were never-ending serials of adventure, science fiction heros, family situations. The girls' activities usually centered around family situations and using Barbie dolls as props; the boys were more into adventure. Of course my daughter Jeanne was the exception. Princess Lea was her heroine, Star Wars was her favorite subject. Fortunately she found a kindred spirit in Billy, the boy next door.
My own childhood revolved around reenactments of favorite Saturday morning TV shows about cowboys and Indians. The hours we spent playing these games are some of my fondest memories. Over the years these sounds have disappeared from the neighborhood. The children living here now go to day care or after-school programs. Their free time has disappeared into a flurry of structured activity - sports, dance, academic enhancement.
Not long ago I went looking for my oldest granddaughter (swim team, dancing, scouting, academic achiever) and found her in the closet of her room, contendedly playing with her Barbies. I immediately apologized for my intrusion, told her what she was doing was a good thing, and left her to it.
It saddens me that a child today has to be reassured that imaginary play is acceptable. Sometimes, while driving to some activity, my husband and I have listened in as our two granddaughters in the back seat acted out some scenario that is obviously an ongoing drama. We exchanged a knowing glance and left the girls to it, relishing our eavesdropping role on a precious childhood ritual.
Today's children are all too often scheduled to the point where they have no time to explore the horizons of their imaginations. This threatens their ability to use the tool of play to work out in terms they understand the world they inhabit.
While their parents concentrate on giving them the best opportunities - in dance, sports, scouting, camp, scholastic activities - they are sometimes deprived of the greatest opportunity of all - to use their own, innate skills to adapt to and make sense of the environment in which they live.
Free play can be challenging to a parent. It can result in squabbles and disagreements that raise voices and are untidy. I believe it is the greatest gift a parent can give their children.